LETTER TO MY SISTER
by Kele Kalu
The one, the only Uggles,
I’m supposed to write a letter of advice (law joke) to help guide you through the pitfalls of life and avoid the same mistakes that I’ve made growing up.
You are a woman now, no matter how much I like to think of you as that segmented little Michelin-man of a baby, you’ve grown into a beautiful firecracker with wit and foresight beyond your years. Watching you grow has been a joy I protect selfishly, and no matter how much I’d like to shield you from the world, you’ve begun to experience some of its realities.
“This is a man’s world This is a man’s world But it wouldn’t be nothing, nothing Without a woman or a girl”
You are a member of a patriarchal society, where by nature of binary placement, men are by default supposed to rule. Men are supposed to guide you- ironic as I write this letter to help guide you.
This is where I’m supposed to man-bash and warn you of the scumminess of men, but let’s try this differently, take some of that supposed power away.
You’ve reached that age every older brother fears for his little sister — the age of discovery and search for new experiences. You are your own woman, your own voyager in this journey of life. You are not a victim, you are not a trophy, you are not another notch. We live in a society that holds you to a higher standard as the instigator of all that you experience. So guard your experiences, live with your eyes wide open. Understand yourself, you know what you like and dislike. Trust your instincts and above all else, don’t let yourself be defined by anyone else.
You are a singular flame burning bright, whose light brings new understanding, revealing a truth to the world that has long been hidden. You have a purpose- your own purpose. At this age you shouldn’t let your happiness and life’s journey play second fiddle to someone else’s.
Men will come to you with an expectation and perceived entitlement to priority status in your life and your relationship with them. As I said this is the age of discovery. Your experiences should reveal something deeper about yourself to help your light burn brighter and unearth that lost knowledge. This doesn’t mean that you should avoid all men, but be discerning in your dealings with them.
You are a woman; your very existence adds meaning to life. By virtue of your physical nature, you have the unique gift of being the gateway to the spiritual, through your capacity to bring life out of the immaterial into the material. You are a co-creator. When you understand yourself, you will over time understand your twin flame when the time comes- but only if that is your path.
Written by Kelechi Kalu